It seems odd to think that when our mental wellbeing is low and we feel drained, lost and overwhelmed, that giving can help. How do we find the energy for that?

The science, however, is overwhelming. A study in 1999 showed that elderly people who volunteered at two or more organisations were 44% more likely to live 5 years longer than those that didn’t. That’s impressive! A similar study in 2003 in found amongst elderly couples, “those individuals who provided practical help to friends, relatives, or neighbors, or gave emotional support to their spouses, had a lower risk of dying over a five-year period than those who didn’t”.(University of Michigan)

So why does giving lead us to feel better. Well, it gives us a sense of self-worth, when poor mental health often erodes our self-esteem. It gives us a chance to connect and is likely to lead to reciprocal behaviour.

During this crisis we have a great opportunity to give and many including ourselves need that connection. On a larger scale lots of organisations are looking for people to help with deliveries, to bring in crops, to volunteer in the local community. On a small scale simply smiling at someone, saying Hi, letting go any annoyance at someone else’s behaviour because they are handling the crisis in a way you don’t like. Try to let it go. There’s no way of knowing what they are going through so try not to judge and give them a smile too. You know your strengths so put them to good use.

Give time, give kindness, and give your yourself those things too.

If you are struggling please get in touch with your GP, or Mind or the Samaritans.